What’s this about being a “Fangirl?”
Recently, I turned twenty-eight. That’s right…I am yet another step closer to the lovely age of thirty.
Despite this, I remain a fangirl at heart. I do really mean at heart as I have never been a psychopath in the presence of any of my favourite musicians or actors. I’m proud to say that I didn’t even pull out the “It’s my birthday” card to get a Cumberbatch autograph when I saw him play Hamlet in London a few years ago. He was all of five feet away from where I was standing and I thankfully held up quite well under the excitement. Also, no outward fangirling was present…I have a witness.
Famous people are human too after all right? What’s the point in going all gaga over them…at least right in front of them? Sure, I’ll admit that I’m bad at making awkward small talk with the likes of Set It Off. But that’s really only because my go to topic is them getting their asses back to Ireland ASAP. THEN there’s the whole “do you want me to sign something…” question to which I happily reply; “No, I only came for the hugs.” After all, I do have a heap of t-shirts and posters with their scribbles on them already.
You like Set It Off?
Last week I saw Set It Off for the 10th time. Yes, you’re right. They’ve only been to Ireland once. I HAVE travelled specifically to see them live and planned trips to Minnesota around their gigs. Is that weird? Maybe. Ultimately though, that’s just dedication. Those lads are feckin’ gems and some of the nicest people I have ever met. I could go on gushing, but let’s save that for another time, shall we?
SIO were touring with the LOVELY Simple Plan. I have been a fan since back in the day but this is the first time I was able to see them live. The tour was in celebration of the 15th Anniversary of their debut album No Pads, No Helmets…Just Balls. I was only 13 when the album came out and wasn’t a fully fledged fangirl of any sort at that age ( at least to the best of my recollection.) The gig was one of the most energetic and well executed performances that I have ever had the pleasure to attend and they are officially one of my favourite live bands.
Who are the others? We’ll discuss that elsewhere in the near future. Because after all, I thoroughly enjoy discussing anything involving music.
Where are you going with all of this?
I have male friends who fangirl more than I do, it’s completely acceptable no matter who you are. YES, the term is/should always be “fanGIRL.” Don’t ask me why or claim that it’s being sexist. Some things in this world are just the way they are and you need to learn how to DEAL WITH IT.
If you don’t get excited about something you love, you should probably consider therapy.
For me, music is my therapy. I went to see an actual therapist once because I was a horrible teenager…music has done a better job “sorting me out.”
But “Fangirling” is definitely okay right?
Fangirling is a way of life guuuyyysss. It’s also totally acceptable(ish.) If you feel the need to preserve the germs of the famous hand you’ve just had the pleasure of touching, you go right ahead. Just…PLEASE…don’t do anything that will make anyone feel uncomfortable. Be respectful if you find you just can’t contain yourself. Alright?
You were meant to talk about the benefits of Fangirling…
Oops, I got carried away there for a moment. Don’t worry…here are three simple reasons fangirling could be a positive thing for you to do. I’m sure there’s many more reasons but let’s stay focused.
It’s good for your mental health. Don’t keep your excitement bottled up! Let loose, constructively and respectfully. Music is a good way to keep sane even when you seem to be acting like a total nutter.
Having interests means making friends. I have never been to a gig where I have not talked to strangers about our mutual appreciation for the act and for music in general. Sure, I may not have kept in contact with many of them, but there’s a chance you’ll be at the same place again in the future and it’s easier to let loose in front of people you barely know.
Your passion could get you noticed. If you’ve been dying for that hug but don’t fangirl enough to wait in a line or wave hello…nothing will happen! I was once waiting outside a venue next to two young girls that had travelled from mainland Europe to see Set It Off in London. They were too shy to say hello to the drummer Maxx when he walked past, but I didn’t hesitate in calling him over. YES…I did have small bottles of Jagermeister for him for his birthday but that’s not my point. Also, if you make enough of a NORMAL effort to love a band, there’s a chance they’ll actually remember who you are the next time you see them in person.
This is where we part ways and where I remind you that I’m TWENTY EIGHT and will always be a fangirl, even if it’s only at heart. I would like to continue to be partially sane during this thing “they” refer to as “adulthood.”
Feel free to share some stories with me. I’m all ears.